Girl Talk with Sarah: 5 of 10
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Today’s question comes from my friend Tanya. I met Tanya in my first year of university. She actually lived down the hall from me in our residence building. We had the best time together going to all of the Welcome Week events and remained close throughout our studies. She’s living back home with her family in Ottawa, so we don’t see each other as often as we’d like, but we Skype and BBM each other as much as possible.
Hi Sarah! I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over four years. We met in our first year of undergraduate studies. We casually dated each other for the first six months and then he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was reluctant at first, but I agreed because we had a good time together. He’s a great guy, but lately I’ve been feeling the Lord tugging at my heart. His family goes to church from time-to-time and he believes in God but doesn’t have any relationship with Jesus. I’ve always known this, but it’s been bothering me more and more lately. I’d like to ask him to come to church with me, but I’m nervous for how he’ll react. What if he’s not interested? I’m not sure if he’s the right guy for me, and we’ve been together for four years-if this relationship isn’t going anywhere, I don’t think either of us wants to waste each other’s time. I know this is something I need to pray about but I don’t know how. I know the Bible says a lot of marriage and being equally yoked, but I don’t know much else. Does it say anything about dating at all?
Sarah’s Words of Wisdom:
This is a tricky question as I don’t know all the dynamics to your relationship. But, as I write in Stress Point and as I’ve talked about on my blog, if there is anything (relationship, job, friendship, or dating relationship) that distracts you from the Lord, it needs to be re-evaluated. I’m of the mindset now that if the guy you are dating doesn’t LOVE the Lord, he can easily become a distraction to your walk with Jesus.
I’ve posed some questions to think about on this blog post.
Be sure to check out this post. Sarah has posted some really thought-provoking questions surrounding this topic and the interaction between her readers is very insightful. More advice and wisdom surrounding this topic can be found in chapter 5 of Stress Point, entitled Stress Point: Love/Dating Part 2- Quite Intense.